Three Things Every Wife Should Know

Marriage is such a sweet gift from the Lord, but can we be real for a minute?? Marriage isn’t always easy. Marriage is the merging of two imperfect people and so it will not always seem perfect. With so many moving factors in a marriage, how can a wife continue to be the wife God has called her to be?

God is your first love

I love a fairy tale ending. I’ve always believed in love. When I met my husband, he swooped me off of my feet… like movie style love. We had a whirlwind romance. We met, dated, got engaged, and then married all within six months. I was smitten y’all.

As much as I love my husband, and as much as he loves me, he is not my first love. We were created to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, strength and mind and then our neighbor as ourself. When we elevate our husband above our first love, things will feel out of order.

You husband won’t complete you

You’ve heard the cliche…. “You complete me.” Or how about “He’s my better half?” When we view our husbands as someone who completes us, we will always be asking them to fill a void that they were not created to fill. Our husbands should be our partners, but not our other halves.

Our husbands should be our partners, but not our other halves. Click To Tweet

We are only made whole through Jesus. When we are looking to him for everything we need, then everything our husband does becomes a fun little bonus.

Wives were created to encourage

Being a wife is hard. Sometimes our husbands make dumb decisions. Sometimes they are less than romantic, and marriage is less than glamorous. It is so easy as a wife to begin to try to fix or change our husbands. “If he would just do it this way…” “If you would have listened to me to begin with…” “I told you so…”

God created the woman to be a helper for her man. We were created to help him as he walks in his purpose. So many times we think we are helping, when in reality we are controlling (ouch.) As a wife, we must remember that our job is to love and encourage through grace and humility, knowing that God will sort out their imperfections.

So go forth pretty lady and love your man. Encourage him in his calling. Support him in his purpose.

Marriage is a blessing. Enjoy the journey.

3 Things I’ve Learned about Pain

Pain is no fun… like absolutely none at all. It is excruciating and unpredictable… The last four months have been filled with pain that I’ve never known before and they have taught me a lot about what pain is, what it isn’t and how to cope.

I know I can’t be the only person who has been betrayed, broken, and bruised. If you have been in a painful place or are now, I hope these three things I have learned will help you through this season!

Pain is unpredictable

If you had told me six months ago that I would be in this place of pain, I would have probably laughed. The pain that I am feeling is the direct result of being betrayed by the person I trusted the most. I knew they would have never hurt me, but somehow they did.

I would have told you that there was absolutely no possible way that this person would break my heart and I would have been wrong.

The truth is that pain comes without warning.. It’s unpredictable, unpreventable and undeniable. And so… the pain comes when we least expect it and it shatters everything that we thought we knew. Crushes it right to the core..

In painful seasons all we can do is cling to verses like

 “I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.” John 16:33

Pain makes it hard to pray…

The first month after realizing I had been betrayed it was so hard to pray about it. God had a purpose and I knew he would get me through it but I wasn’t ready to let him..

I was mad…I was hurting.. I was crying.. I was shaking.. I was numb..

I wasn’t okay by any stretch of the imagination. I remember saying things like “I know God has a plan and that he is going to work this out for my good.” but in my heart I wasn’t so sure.

There was nothing I could do to fix it and that was okay.

God gave me my time… He held me when I didn’t know what to pray and he waited for me to be ready for healing. Eventually that day came… It wasn’t overnight.. It was more than a month after the pain started and I finally found myself in that place.. I found myself saying “Lord heal me from the hurt they caused.” and he began to heal me… but that took time too! It was another two months after that until I was finally able to choose to forgive the people who had hurt me.. and I’m sure it will be another few months or years before I am completely healed because….

 Pain is a process…

When you have been hurt deeply and pain becomes such a big part of your heart, it is a process to get to the other side..

There is no right answer.. there is no ten step program to quicken your healing process. There is only Jesus. The process is long and unsteady, but Jesus is stable and secure throughout the journey.


Each time I found myself saying “God I’m not okay.” I would hear him whisper “I know baby, but you will be.. I’ll hold you until you are.” and he did.. and he does.. and he will until it’s over. He will give me a word to get me through… a friend to hug me when it hurts..  a light to shine into the darkness… a hope when I feel hopeless.


Pain will affect us all at some point in our lives because we live in a sinful world. People fail us… family members die… jobs are lost… husbands leave.. children run..  and hurt enters in each time..

The only sure thing in this world is Jesus. Click To Tweet

If you are going through a painful season, I’m so sorry! I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you I know how you feel.. I wish I could tell you that it is all going to be okay.. All I can really do is tell you that Jesus won’t abandon you here. This is not the end of your story.. walk with him.. Let yourself feel the things you feel, hurt the way you do, and let him carry you to the other side.

Have you been personally affected by pain? Are you walking through it right now? I’d love to walk through it with you. Email me at or comment below. You don’t have to do it alone.

Top Ten Baby Products You Desperately Need

So you are having a baby, or already have one, and you are overwhelmed by all of the baby items. What do you really need? What can you live with out? Do they really need ALL of the things on the registry list? How do you know which brand to buy? What works the best?

The questions that come along with preparing for a baby are endless. I remember a year ago when my husband and I were preparing our registry we looked at car seats for an hour. Just car seats. It was intense to say the least.

Today I’m putting together a list of the top ten baby items you desperately need. These items were game changers for us in the first few months with our little guy and I’m hoping that this list alleviates some of the stress you may be feeling.Affiliate links included in this post 🙂

  1. The Milk Snob Nursing Cover was a life-saver! I was so self-conscious about nursing with people around but this cover kept me completely covered and stress free! It also was great for keeping baby boy covered so that germs wouldn’t get him when we went for those first few doctor’s appointments. Every new mom needs a couple of these even if you aren’t breastfeeding. It’s the perfect baby cover!


2. The Graco Dream Suite Bassinet was the absolute best bassinet! We loved that it had wheels just like the bassinet at the hospital. We could roll Bryton around to any room with no problems. Also, it turns over into a changing table! It’s the perfect little baby station! I would roll him right up next to our bed at night and could see him through the mesh sides. I was so sad when he outgrew it! 🙁


3. Swaddling a newborn baby is a tricky skill to learn. My husband tried to master it, but I never could. When we did finally get baby B swaddled, he would break free. He was a strong little thing. The SwaddleMe Original Swaddle Blankets fixed this problem! These velcro swaddle blankets would keep little man nice and cozy the entire time he slept. Game Changer!


4. The Graco SnugRide Click Connect Infant Car Seat was perfect because it clicked easily into all of our cars without having to re-install it each time! We made sure that all of the grandparents had a base too! If you get one of these carseats, it will come with one base, but you will need additional bases for each car. You can order the click connect base here: Graco SnugRide Click Connect 30/35 LX Infant Car Seat Base, Black by Graco


5. We also loved our Graco Click Connect Stroller because our carseat fit down into it perfectly. When I was on Maternity Leave, I would take little man to the park to walk before lunch. This was such a great way for me to get a little sunshine. 🙂


 6. White noise was such an important part of trying to keep our little guy to sleep. It drowns out the outside noise. We love our Skip Hop Moonlight & Melodies Nightlight Soother-Owl! This cute little white noise machine has 8 different sounds and also has built in night lights for those late night feedings! Win-win!

7. When we began transitioning to the crib, I needed to be able to see and hear my baby boy. I’m sure you can relate. I checked our Summer Infant PANORAMA Digital Color Video Baby Monitor the WHOLE TIME. I loved being able to see Bryton from the other room!



8.We love our WubbaNub Pacifier. At first I really wasn’t sure if I would useit very much. But the older Bryton got, the more he loved it! I’m so glad we received one at our shower!

9. I thought that I wanted a Bumbo Seat but then we received a Summer Infant 3-Stage SuperSeat as a gift and I’m so glad we did! This little seat has removable attachments and a removable tray. It’s more than just a seat and our little man has gotten so much use out of it.


10. The last item on the list is the Fisher-Price On-the-Go Baby Dome! I have had so many people ask me where I got this! It is literally the best item for busy families on the go. We have a Traditional Pack ‘N Play that we use at home, but it was so tedious to take down and put back up. The travel dome can be carried with one hand and set up literally takes seconds. We love it!


There you have it! I don’t know how we would have made it these last seven months without these baby items! They seriously have made this parenthood thing so much easier!

What is your favorite baby item? Leave a comment below!

Dear Mom Who Feels Like a Failure…

Dear Mom who feels like a failure…

I see you trying so hard to be the best mom for your kids. I see you striving to make sure you are doing this mom thing the “right” way.

Some days you feel like you are Supermom… but then there are days like today. Days when you feel like you can’t win for losing. You lose your cool, your grace and your sanity. And you want to give up. You don’t want to screw up the babies God has blessed you with. On days like today, you are all too familiar with your humanity and you begin to feel like the biggest failure.

Everywhere you look, it seems like the moms around you have it all together with their Instagram perfect lives, and you begin to feel like you will never measure up. But momma, you don’t have to measure up to someone else’s picture perfect life. God knit YOUR babies together in YOUR womb.

Let. that. sink. in.

God gave you nine months to carry your child in your womb. During this time, a beautiful bond was formed. God perfectly wired your baby and prepared your heart to raise them. Don’t feel like a failure when you don’t think you measure up. You are raising a tiny human. Like a real one.. with specific talents, personality, and quirks.There isn’t a one size fits all approach to motherhood. The only way we can do this thing is through the love of Jesus.

When the enemy tries to steal your joy, kill your hope, and destroy your authority as a mom, cry out to the Heavenly Father. He is the only perfect parent.. and he extends grace to you and to me in our imperfection. Surrender the areas that you are struggling with to the Father. He will give you strength in your weakness.

You are not a failure. You are doing great!

Keep up the good work Momma,

~Your fellow Momma

*Are you struggling with always feeling anxious, angry and overwhelmed as a mom? Do you ever feel frazzled and stressed to the max? I just finished the book 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with Gods Best and it was amazing! It brought so much freedom and truth. You can order a copy from Amazon here: 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with Gods Best

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How to Find Grace in Hard Seasons

Do you ever feel like you are stuck in a hard season? Like no matter what you do you can’t seem to get ahead? I’ve been there. Some seasons in life are harder than others. Sometimes I feel like I’m broken… Something is wrong with me.. I need a reset. Because in this season I missed it somewhere.

But then there’s Jesus. He tells me I haven’t missed it. The ship didn’t sail. I didn’t miss the mark.

Because see, there’s this grace that exudes from the hands of Jesus. This grace knew I’d be in this season and that I would feel this broken… This grace gently carries me above the rising waters.

The grace of Jesus picks me up and carries me when I know I can’t carry myself.

He knew I’d have this season. He knew that in this season, I wouldn’t be able to carry myself through. But he also knew that in this season he would get the chance to do a new thing.. to show me something I desperately needed to see, grace…

So in the hard seasons of life, I’ll raise my white flag and lay down my pride and pick up the grace of my sweet Jesus.

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV

Five Verses to Help with Anxiety

Have you ever struggled with anxiety? Big or Small? I have and if I’m honest, it sometimes is a daily struggle. Merriem-Webster defines anxiety as being afraid or nervous especially about what may happen.

Did you catch that??

Being afraid or nervous especially about what MAY happen. MAY… not will… MAY.

Isn’t it crazy that anxiety is caused most of the time by things that haven’t even happened and in all reality may NEVER happen??? I think sometimes we walk in fear because we connect the pain we have felt to the fear of being hurt or damaged again. It’s hard not to be anxious during heavy seasons. Habbakuk understood this. If you want to dig deeper into the story of Habbakuk you can do that here. 🙂

So how do we combat these anxious thoughts? Pray. And then pray some more.

Here are my five favorite verses to pray over my life when I’m anxious.

1. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6

This verse reminds us to stop and remember that God is listening.

2. “ Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your  life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” Colossians 3:2-4

When we set our mind on things above, and remember that our life is hidden with Christ, we can release the anxious thoughts surrounding our situation.

3. ” Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” Psalm 55:22

It brings peace knowing that God will not let us be shaken in a world that looks hopeless. He will sustain us through each circumstance.

4. “In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lordmake me dwell in safety.” Psalm 4:8

Our minds run wild in the evening hours. I literally speak this verse every night before I go to sleep. It reminds me that God has me and he keeps me wrapped safely in his love.

5. “The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14

Sometimes our anxiety stems from the battle we are facing. Speaking Exodus 14:14 over our lives reminds us that God will fight for us… and that takes the pressure of and gives us the freedom to walk in peace.

What is your favorite verse to pray when you are anxious? Leave a comment!

Following the God of Promise

God is a God of promise. The Bible is filled with promises from our Father. The thing about following a God of promise… it requires faith. Today I was reading in the book of Genesis about Abram, later known as Abraham. Now there is someone who God made a promise to… and a pretty big one. But Abram didn’t see the fruits of that promise for YEARS!

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” The Lord had said to Abram, “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you. I will make you into a great nation, and I will bless you; I will make your name great and you will be a blessing.  I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you.” So Abram went, as the Lord had told him; and Lot went with him. Abram was seventy-five years old when he set out from Harran.

Can we just take a minute to talk about the fact that God told Abram to leave basically everything he had ever known, to go into a land he had not yet seen? God said go to the land I WILL SHOW you… WILL SHOW.. Future tense y’all.

Then the God of promises gives Abram a promise.

And Abram went… He left everything he knew to follow God into the unknown trusting in a promise he could not yet see.

We all love promises right? I mean I want to take hold of the promises God has for me… 100% but am I really truly brave enough to leave everything I know to go after promises I cannot tangibly see??

I want to be.. I want to have that kind of faith. What made Abram able to walk out in that kind of faith? He was just a person like you and me. But God stayed close to him. In each new place, God spoke to Abram. God was constantly speaking to him and giving him the words he needed to step out in faith.

What is your promise from God? What is your faith walk? Today take some time to listen to the God of promises. Maybe he wants to speak a new promise over you, or maybe he just wants to reignite a promise in you from long ago. Either way, he is ready to speak over you and walk through each step with you.

Why I Stopped Walking in my Calling

Have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated with your mundane life? You see other people around you and they look like their life is so much more exciting. Their family, house, job, marriage, and even their calling and gifts begin to make you feel inferior. You begin to pressure yourself to be that. You begin trying to conform to who they are… and you begin to feel miserable.

I’ve been there recently. I’ve been trying to fit into someone else’s box. I’m not ever sure why. It just sort of happened. Maybe you can relate.

The beautiful thing about our Father God is that when we begin to start to sway from the path he’s called us to walk, he gently and graciously brings us back. Don’t you love grace?

I began to feel frustrated with myself and if I’m honest, a little frustrated with God. Why is my life not working out? Why do I feel so basic? Why do I feel miserable? Why is this SO hard? (I’m just being super honest y’all.)

This is when God began to speak to my heart. He said “Jordan, your not walking in your calling.” “What? But I’m writing.. I’m blogging.. I’m trying God?” “You know I’ve called you to speak and I’ve called you to pour into your community. I want you to share me through blogging and writing, but I don’t want you to hide behind it.” Ouch.

You see, I didn’t know until this conversation that I had started to hide. I refused to walk in my calling because I got hurt… hurt bad. I was vulnerable with people. I was sharing and speaking. I was putting myself out there.. and they used my vulnerability against me. It hurt. It made me want to run and hide. And so I did. I guess somewhere along the way I just thought it would be safer to share my heart with you behind this computer screen, than  to have to sit down face to face and be authentic.

I stopped using the gifts God had specifically given me… and little by little I began to dry up. I didn’t even know it had happened. But it had.

It’s easy to put up walls, it’s nearly impossible to tear them back down. But here I am… slowly chipping away at the walls I let grow just a little too high. It’s a process and that’s okay. Because this tearing down process, it’s beautiful.. It’s in this place that God is able to speak to my broken, dry places and call them back to life again.

Maybe you’re here too. All dry and shriveled up with walls around your heart too high to climb over. Maybe you’ve been hurt… Maybe you’ve shut down… I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be this way. We can fight through and tear these walls down. It won’t be easy. Nothing worth having ever is. But the Lord will graciously lead us back to a place of peace.

~Can you relate to today’s topic? Leave a comment or send us a private message.. We are all in this together!

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3 Reasons Why the Dishes are NEVER CLEAN


I did the dishes this morning… and now the sink is overflowing again. :/ And so I’m going to have to do them again this afternoon.. It’s the never ending cycle of dirty dishes… like a merry go round I can’t get off of. Anyone else relate to my struggle?

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So I find myself asking the question “WHY ARE THE DISHES NEVER CLEAN?” I mean, where is the dish fairy when you need her? (Oh wait.. I guess that would be me. Sigh.) So I have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and my endless pile of dirty dishes… and the Lord begins to speak…

And so today I want to share with you the 3 reasons why the dishes are NEVER CLEAN.

#1- I’m Loving my People

My husband works long hours to provide for my family. He teaches Elementary PE.. Coaches Elementary Archery, High School Basketball, and we just opened a Basketball facility in our home town. Talk about a busy man! We also had our first baby boy back in July. The Lord has really been teaching me about his sacrificial love for others in this season.

I want the dishes to be completely clean all the time.. but when my husband comes home and I haven’t seen him and he wants to spend time watching our favorite TV show curled up on the couch, I am choosing to say no to the need to have perfectly clean dishes, and yes to quality time with my husband. When my baby boy is fussy and needs to be held, I’m saying no to having perfectly clean dishes, and yes to providing the comfort he needs. 1 John 3:16 NLT says “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”

If Christ laid down his life for me, I can most certainly lay down my desire to have a perfectly clean kitchen for the sake of others.   Tweet: If Christ laid down his life for me I can certainly lay down my desire to have perfectly clean dishes for others @jordantwhitlock

#2 I’m Learning to Trust God

When we first got married, we ate out A LOT.

My husband is a super picky eater, and I struggle with being disciplined so eating out was always just a quick fix. In this season of a new business venture, we have to make smart financial decisions. Even though eating out is quick and easy in the moment, it will not produce life for us in the future. And so.. I am making an intentional effort to cook.. a lot. I’m getting a chance to learn new recipes and supply food for my family out of the abundant supply God has given us. There is less of us wondering “What’s for supper?” and more of us eating the food that God has so beautifully supplied.

Luke 12:29-31  “And don’t be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don’t worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.”

#3 I’m Enjoying the Life God has Given Me

We spend so much of our lives stressing about what isn’t perfect. We miss the people right in front of us because we are worried about the mess around us.
Tweet: We miss the people right in front of us because we are worried about the mess around us @jordantwhitlock

Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 says “So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.” The need to have perfectly clean kitchens is robbing us of enjoying ourselves. So I’m deciding to be okay with dirty dishes sometimes. I’m choosing to eat and drink and enjoy the gifts God has given me. 

Embrace the mess today and let go of the need to be perfect. In letting go, we will finally be free to enjoy the gifts God has given us.

September Favorites

Hello faithful followers! We are expanding and I am so excited to not only write about my faith, but my family and my favorite products as well. Today I want to share some of the things that I’m loving this month! I’ve included affiliate links for my favorite items so that you can easily find them 🙂

Favorite Book: Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist.

This book is literally giving me life! We spend so much time trying to be perfect for others that we spin out of control. Shauna’s authentic words give us permission to breathe and to be PRESENT with our People! It is a must read for anybody struggling with that perfectionism bug like me!Present-Over-Perfect-Leaving-Behind-Frantic-for-a-Simpler-More-Soulful-Way-of-Living-0.jpg

One of my favorite quotes from the book: “Present is living with your feet firmly grounded in reality, pale and uncertain as it may seem. Present is choosing to believe that your own life is worth investing deeply in, instead of waiting for some rare miracle or fairytale. Present means we understand that the here and now is sacred, sacramental, threaded through with divinity even in its plainness. Especially in its plainness.”

Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living

Favorite Beauty Products:

I’m LOVING my Vitamin C Breakthrough Night Cream from Spa Cosmetics!pure night cream
Pure Vitamin C+ AntiAging Night Cream, 50 ml (All Skin Types)./ Dead Sea Minerals by Spa Cosmetics LTD (made in Israel).This cream goes on so smoothly and feels sensational! My skin looks firmer and more hydrated than ever! 🙂

I’m also loving my Maybelline New York Fit Me! Concealer, 10 Light, 0.23 Fluid Ounce! This concealer is perfect for those mornings when my little guy kept me up and I need a little brightening under the eyes!

Favorite Recipe:

Right now I’m home on maternity leave and I’m using it as an opportunity to try new recipes that I haven’t had a chance to try! I’m loving experimenting in the kitchen and have found a couple of recipes that I’m obsessed with!

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This recipe I found over at! This Crack Chicken Recipe is AMAZING! My husband is obsessed 🙂 It’s cheesy, gooey and simply the best weeknight meal! I have used canned chicken when in a rush and it was just as amazing! You can find the recipe at

I hope you’ve enjoyed this month’s favorites! I can’t wait to try new things and bring you the review! Leave a comment with you favorite book, skin care or recipe! I’d love to try it out 🙂

~ Jordan