Being a mom is hard. Like really, really hard. Your days consist of snotty noses and boo-boos. Your nights consist of feedings and diaper changes and rocking.
There are lunches to be made and backpacks to be packed. There is homework to be done and games to be played.
With all the demands on moms it can sometimes be hard to put your best foot forward. Here are 6 surefire ways to be the best mom ever.
Recognize that motherhood is a gift
Can we be honest for a minute? Some days motherhood feels less like a gift and more like a chore. We can feel trapped in a sea of dirty dishes and dirty diapers. On top of all of the demands we face, the little humans we created require us to meet their emotional, physical and mental needs and we are left with a five minute shower and dry shampoo hair that lasts for days.
But the Bible says “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” Psalm 127:3
When we make the decision to recognize each day that children are a gift from the Lord then we can view even the least glamorous situations as a blessing.
Surrender your children to god
Surrender is so hard to do. It can seem nearly impossible to do when it comes to the tiny person you are responsible for. God calls us to live a lifestyle of daily surrender. Being responsible for someone and being in control of someone are two different things. We absolutely have a responsibility to take care of our children. But what happens when it is beyond our capacity? Our babies have a Heavenly father who loves them far more than we do. We can choose to surrender them daily to the Lord, knowing that he will work all things together for them because he loves and cares for them.
Be a safe place
Parenting is one of the greatest callings in the world. Parents have the opportunity to discipline their children and this can be a beautiful thing when done like Jesus. God is gentle and encouraging in his discipline. When parents correct their children in gentleness and love, it provides a safe space for the child to make mistakes and to grow into a person that can learn from their struggles.
Be committed to sanctification
Your child is looking to you Momma. You are the one who will teach them what a relationship with Jesus looks like. They are watching you and learning. The best thing that we can do for our babies is to continue to pursue Jesus for ourselves. The more time we spend with him, the more like him we will become. The more like Jesus we become, the more gentle and loving we will be.
speak life over them daily
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21
Words have the power to build our children up and also to tear them down. No one can tear down your child with words quite as well as you can. Your child longs for a parent that will nurture and build them up even in their flaws. As mommas it can be tempting in the moment to say things out of frustration and anger, but our children are fragile and need loving correction more than they need harsh redirection.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
How much of your talk is unwholesome? The Bible says to only say what is helpful for building others up according to their needs… What if as a momma you resolved to only say things that encouraged and built your child up, even in heated conversations?
The impact would be life-changing.
Leave room for fun
Your child needs to know that you enjoy them. So much of parenting can be daunting. We have to leave room for fun. Create space in your life to play with your babies. The time you spend building the relationship with them is time that is never wasted. They are only in your house for a short time. When we have fun with them when they are younger, it will pave the way for a meaningful relationship with them when they get older. Give your children godly discipline and then sit with them and play. It will be worth it.
What advice do you have for your fellow mommas? Leave a comment below!