Three Things Every Wife Should Know

Marriage is such a sweet gift from the Lord, but can we be real for a minute?? Marriage isn’t always easy. Marriage is the merging of two imperfect people and so it will not always seem perfect. With so many moving factors in a marriage, how can a wife continue to be the wife God has called her to be?

God is your first love

I love a fairy tale ending. I’ve always believed in love. When I met my husband, he swooped me off of my feet… like movie style love. We had a whirlwind romance. We met, dated, got engaged, and then married all within six months. I was smitten y’all.

As much as I love my husband, and as much as he loves me, he is not my first love. We were created to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, strength and mind and then our neighbor as ourself. When we elevate our husband above our first love, things will feel out of order.

You husband won’t complete you

You’ve heard the cliche…. “You complete me.” Or how about “He’s my better half?” When we view our husbands as someone who completes us, we will always be asking them to fill a void that they were not created to fill. Our husbands should be our partners, but not our other halves.

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We are only made whole through Jesus. When we are looking to him for everything we need, then everything our husband does becomes a fun little bonus.

Wives were created to encourage

Being a wife is hard. Sometimes our husbands make dumb decisions. Sometimes they are less than romantic, and marriage is less than glamorous. It is so easy as a wife to begin to try to fix or change our husbands. “If he would just do it this way…” “If you would have listened to me to begin with…” “I told you so…”

God created the woman to be a helper for her man. We were created to help him as he walks in his purpose. So many times we think we are helping, when in reality we are controlling (ouch.) As a wife, we must remember that our job is to love and encourage through grace and humility, knowing that God will sort out their imperfections.

So go forth pretty lady and love your man. Encourage him in his calling. Support him in his purpose.

Marriage is a blessing. Enjoy the journey.

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Top Ten Baby Products You Desperately Need

So you are having a baby, or already have one, and you are overwhelmed by all of the baby items. What do you really need? What can you live with out? Do they really need ALL of the things on the registry list? How do you know which brand to buy? What works the best?

The questions that come along with preparing for a baby are endless. I remember a year ago when my husband and I were preparing our registry we looked at car seats for an hour. Just car seats. It was intense to say the least.

Today I’m putting together a list of the top ten baby items you desperately need. These items were game changers for us in the first few months with our little guy and I’m hoping that this list alleviates some of the stress you may be feeling.Affiliate links included in this post 🙂

  1. The Milk Snob Nursing Cover was a life-saver! I was so self-conscious about nursing with people around but this cover kept me completely covered and stress free! It also was great for keeping baby boy covered so that germs wouldn’t get him when we went for those first few doctor’s appointments. Every new mom needs a couple of these even if you aren’t breastfeeding. It’s the perfect baby cover!


2. The Graco Dream Suite Bassinet was the absolute best bassinet! We loved that it had wheels just like the bassinet at the hospital. We could roll Bryton around to any room with no problems. Also, it turns over into a changing table! It’s the perfect little baby station! I would roll him right up next to our bed at night and could see him through the mesh sides. I was so sad when he outgrew it! 🙁


3. Swaddling a newborn baby is a tricky skill to learn. My husband tried to master it, but I never could. When we did finally get baby B swaddled, he would break free. He was a strong little thing. The SwaddleMe Original Swaddle Blankets fixed this problem! These velcro swaddle blankets would keep little man nice and cozy the entire time he slept. Game Changer!


4. The Graco SnugRide Click Connect Infant Car Seat was perfect because it clicked easily into all of our cars without having to re-install it each time! We made sure that all of the grandparents had a base too! If you get one of these carseats, it will come with one base, but you will need additional bases for each car. You can order the click connect base here: Graco SnugRide Click Connect 30/35 LX Infant Car Seat Base, Black by Graco


5. We also loved our Graco Click Connect Stroller because our carseat fit down into it perfectly. When I was on Maternity Leave, I would take little man to the park to walk before lunch. This was such a great way for me to get a little sunshine. 🙂


 6. White noise was such an important part of trying to keep our little guy to sleep. It drowns out the outside noise. We love our Skip Hop Moonlight & Melodies Nightlight Soother-Owl! This cute little white noise machine has 8 different sounds and also has built in night lights for those late night feedings! Win-win!

7. When we began transitioning to the crib, I needed to be able to see and hear my baby boy. I’m sure you can relate. I checked our Summer Infant PANORAMA Digital Color Video Baby Monitor the WHOLE TIME. I loved being able to see Bryton from the other room!



8.We love our WubbaNub Pacifier. At first I really wasn’t sure if I would useit very much. But the older Bryton got, the more he loved it! I’m so glad we received one at our shower!

9. I thought that I wanted a Bumbo Seat but then we received a Summer Infant 3-Stage SuperSeat as a gift and I’m so glad we did! This little seat has removable attachments and a removable tray. It’s more than just a seat and our little man has gotten so much use out of it.


10. The last item on the list is the Fisher-Price On-the-Go Baby Dome! I have had so many people ask me where I got this! It is literally the best item for busy families on the go. We have a Traditional Pack ‘N Play that we use at home, but it was so tedious to take down and put back up. The travel dome can be carried with one hand and set up literally takes seconds. We love it!


There you have it! I don’t know how we would have made it these last seven months without these baby items! They seriously have made this parenthood thing so much easier!

What is your favorite baby item? Leave a comment below!

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Dear Mom Who Feels Like a Failure…

Dear Mom who feels like a failure…

I see you trying so hard to be the best mom for your kids. I see you striving to make sure you are doing this mom thing the “right” way.

Some days you feel like you are Supermom… but then there are days like today. Days when you feel like you can’t win for losing. You lose your cool, your grace and your sanity. And you want to give up. You don’t want to screw up the babies God has blessed you with. On days like today, you are all too familiar with your humanity and you begin to feel like the biggest failure.

Everywhere you look, it seems like the moms around you have it all together with their Instagram perfect lives, and you begin to feel like you will never measure up. But momma, you don’t have to measure up to someone else’s picture perfect life. God knit YOUR babies together in YOUR womb.

Let. that. sink. in.

God gave you nine months to carry your child in your womb. During this time, a beautiful bond was formed. God perfectly wired your baby and prepared your heart to raise them. Don’t feel like a failure when you don’t think you measure up. You are raising a tiny human. Like a real one.. with specific talents, personality, and quirks.There isn’t a one size fits all approach to motherhood. The only way we can do this thing is through the love of Jesus.

When the enemy tries to steal your joy, kill your hope, and destroy your authority as a mom, cry out to the Heavenly Father. He is the only perfect parent.. and he extends grace to you and to me in our imperfection. Surrender the areas that you are struggling with to the Father. He will give you strength in your weakness.

You are not a failure. You are doing great!

Keep up the good work Momma,

~Your fellow Momma

*Are you struggling with always feeling anxious, angry and overwhelmed as a mom? Do you ever feel frazzled and stressed to the max? I just finished the book 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with Gods Best and it was amazing! It brought so much freedom and truth. You can order a copy from Amazon here: 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with Gods Best

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3 Reasons Why the Dishes are NEVER CLEAN


I did the dishes this morning… and now the sink is overflowing again. :/ And so I’m going to have to do them again this afternoon.. It’s the never ending cycle of dirty dishes… like a merry go round I can’t get off of. Anyone else relate to my struggle?

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So I find myself asking the question “WHY ARE THE DISHES NEVER CLEAN?” I mean, where is the dish fairy when you need her? (Oh wait.. I guess that would be me. Sigh.) So I have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and my endless pile of dirty dishes… and the Lord begins to speak…

And so today I want to share with you the 3 reasons why the dishes are NEVER CLEAN.

#1- I’m Loving my People

My husband works long hours to provide for my family. He teaches Elementary PE.. Coaches Elementary Archery, High School Basketball, and we just opened a Basketball facility in our home town. Talk about a busy man! We also had our first baby boy back in July. The Lord has really been teaching me about his sacrificial love for others in this season.

I want the dishes to be completely clean all the time.. but when my husband comes home and I haven’t seen him and he wants to spend time watching our favorite TV show curled up on the couch, I am choosing to say no to the need to have perfectly clean dishes, and yes to quality time with my husband. When my baby boy is fussy and needs to be held, I’m saying no to having perfectly clean dishes, and yes to providing the comfort he needs. 1 John 3:16 NLT says “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”

If Christ laid down his life for me, I can most certainly lay down my desire to have a perfectly clean kitchen for the sake of others.   Tweet: If Christ laid down his life for me I can certainly lay down my desire to have perfectly clean dishes for others @jordantwhitlock

#2 I’m Learning to Trust God

When we first got married, we ate out A LOT.

My husband is a super picky eater, and I struggle with being disciplined so eating out was always just a quick fix. In this season of a new business venture, we have to make smart financial decisions. Even though eating out is quick and easy in the moment, it will not produce life for us in the future. And so.. I am making an intentional effort to cook.. a lot. I’m getting a chance to learn new recipes and supply food for my family out of the abundant supply God has given us. There is less of us wondering “What’s for supper?” and more of us eating the food that God has so beautifully supplied.

Luke 12:29-31  “And don’t be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don’t worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.”

#3 I’m Enjoying the Life God has Given Me

We spend so much of our lives stressing about what isn’t perfect. We miss the people right in front of us because we are worried about the mess around us.
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Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 says “So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.” The need to have perfectly clean kitchens is robbing us of enjoying ourselves. So I’m deciding to be okay with dirty dishes sometimes. I’m choosing to eat and drink and enjoy the gifts God has given me. 

Embrace the mess today and let go of the need to be perfect. In letting go, we will finally be free to enjoy the gifts God has given us.

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