How to Find Grace in Hard Seasons

Do you ever feel like you are stuck in a hard season? Like no matter what you do you can’t seem to get ahead? I’ve been there. Some seasons in life are harder than others. Sometimes I feel like I’m broken… Something is wrong with me.. I need a reset. Because in this season I missed it somewhere.

But then there’s Jesus. He tells me I haven’t missed it. The ship didn’t sail. I didn’t miss the mark.

Because see, there’s this grace that exudes from the hands of Jesus. This grace knew I’d be in this season and that I would feel this broken… This grace gently carries me above the rising waters.

The grace of Jesus picks me up and carries me when I know I can’t carry myself.

He knew I’d have this season. He knew that in this season, I wouldn’t be able to carry myself through. But he also knew that in this season he would get the chance to do a new thing.. to show me something I desperately needed to see, grace…

So in the hard seasons of life, I’ll raise my white flag and lay down my pride and pick up the grace of my sweet Jesus.

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV

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3 Reasons Why the Dishes are NEVER CLEAN


I did the dishes this morning… and now the sink is overflowing again. :/ And so I’m going to have to do them again this afternoon.. It’s the never ending cycle of dirty dishes… like a merry go round I can’t get off of. Anyone else relate to my struggle?

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So I find myself asking the question “WHY ARE THE DISHES NEVER CLEAN?” I mean, where is the dish fairy when you need her? (Oh wait.. I guess that would be me. Sigh.) So I have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and my endless pile of dirty dishes… and the Lord begins to speak…

And so today I want to share with you the 3 reasons why the dishes are NEVER CLEAN.

#1- I’m Loving my People

My husband works long hours to provide for my family. He teaches Elementary PE.. Coaches Elementary Archery, High School Basketball, and we just opened a Basketball facility in our home town. Talk about a busy man! We also had our first baby boy back in July. The Lord has really been teaching me about his sacrificial love for others in this season.

I want the dishes to be completely clean all the time.. but when my husband comes home and I haven’t seen him and he wants to spend time watching our favorite TV show curled up on the couch, I am choosing to say no to the need to have perfectly clean dishes, and yes to quality time with my husband. When my baby boy is fussy and needs to be held, I’m saying no to having perfectly clean dishes, and yes to providing the comfort he needs. 1 John 3:16 NLT says “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”

If Christ laid down his life for me, I can most certainly lay down my desire to have a perfectly clean kitchen for the sake of others.   Tweet: If Christ laid down his life for me I can certainly lay down my desire to have perfectly clean dishes for others @jordantwhitlock

#2 I’m Learning to Trust God

When we first got married, we ate out A LOT.

My husband is a super picky eater, and I struggle with being disciplined so eating out was always just a quick fix. In this season of a new business venture, we have to make smart financial decisions. Even though eating out is quick and easy in the moment, it will not produce life for us in the future. And so.. I am making an intentional effort to cook.. a lot. I’m getting a chance to learn new recipes and supply food for my family out of the abundant supply God has given us. There is less of us wondering “What’s for supper?” and more of us eating the food that God has so beautifully supplied.

Luke 12:29-31  “And don’t be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don’t worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.”

#3 I’m Enjoying the Life God has Given Me

We spend so much of our lives stressing about what isn’t perfect. We miss the people right in front of us because we are worried about the mess around us.
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Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 says “So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.” The need to have perfectly clean kitchens is robbing us of enjoying ourselves. So I’m deciding to be okay with dirty dishes sometimes. I’m choosing to eat and drink and enjoy the gifts God has given me. 

Embrace the mess today and let go of the need to be perfect. In letting go, we will finally be free to enjoy the gifts God has given us.

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When the Wrong Words Come Out…

Happy Wednesday! It’s the middle of the week and that is so exciting. Today we at Truth Unplugged are so excited about our guest blogger, Becky Kopitzke. I met Becky this summer at She Speaks and she was such a ray of sunshine! Her transparency and humor make the awkward  topics a little less awkward and a little more doable. I hope you enjoy her post!

“Mommy, show me your boobie!”

“Excuse me?” My eyebrows shot up. “Show you my what?”

My three-year-old dashed from the playroom to where I sat in a kitchen chair. “Your boobie! On your arm!”

“Ohhh—you mean my boo-boo. Ok, sure.” I pushed up my t-shirt sleeve, revealing a teddy bear band-aid from the doctor’s office, where an hour earlier my daughters and I had gotten stuck with our annual flu shots.

“Yes, Mommy, I want to see your boo-boo. Look, you got a green band-aid just like me!”

“I sure did! We were brave!” And your mother is so relieved you were talking about her arm.

A natural mistake for a child, right? Boo-boo, boo-bee—easy to mix up a vowel sound here and there, no big deal.

But she got me thinking. Sometimes I pick the wrong words, too. Difference is—I know better.

Words like these.

I said put your FREAKING shoes on, now!

I am so tired of this CRAP!

DANGITALL, doesn’t anybody listen to me around here?! Aaaaaagh!!!

Oops. Occasionally I wrestle a bit with self-control. Do you? Frustration bubbles up and spills out my mouth, through grinding teeth and under fiery dragon breath. I don’t necessarily roar at full volume, I mean, I do have some godly discretion (see this halo on my head?). Often I’m just grumbling to myself.

But even if I only think the nasty words and never give them a voice, they’re still a symptom of some ailment brewing deeper than my throat. It’s my heart that needs the check-up.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it,” (Proverbs 4:23).

What does it mean to guard your heart? I used to believe this meant building walls of discipline around it, stacking prayers and memorized scripture like bricks, one on top of another until I’d constructed a pious barrier from which raw emotions could nev-ah escape, mwuahahaha.

But it turns out the wall wasn’t bulletproof. I’d get hit with a bad day or a surge of unruly hormones, and those bricks cracked and crumbled, leaving me exposed, cranky, and suddenly inflicted with a colorful vocabulary.

Slowly now, I’m discovering a more authentic definition. Perhaps, to “guard your heart” means to tend it, watch over it, nurture it. To let it thrive and not suffocate.

It means acknowledging the raw emotions as part of who and whose I am, even in my ugliest moments.

I am a child of God. My heart belongs to him.

So. This is usually the part of the story where the blogger invites you to clean up your act, tame your tongue, rise above the temptation of sin. True, the Bible is full of verses on why we shouldn’t shout “crap” in front of our kids, and I’m in total support of them.

But today, I want to remind you what else the Bible says.


“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God,” (Ephesians 3:16–19, emphasis added).

We’re all going to mess up. We’re all going to have days when emotions scramble to the surface and spew out the wrong pipe. But don’t define yourself by them. Recognize that you are human, you are trying, and God loves you through it all.

He isn’t just helping you guard your heart. He’s living within it.

Heaven knows I need to remember that. You, too?

Let’s do it together. Show me your boo-boos and I’ll show you mine.

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Becky Kopitzke is the author of The SuperMom Myth: Conquering the Dirty Villains of Motherhood (Shiloh Run Press), and founder of The Cranky Mom Fix. As a writer, speaker, mentor, dreamer, believer, lunch packer and recovering perfectionist, Becky believes parenting is one of God’s greatest tools for building our faith, character, and strength—and it’s not always pretty. On her devotional blog,, she offers weekly encouragement for fellow imperfect moms, pointing our weaknesses, blessings, and victories to God.

Becky lives messily ever after with her loving husband and their two young daughters in northeast Wisconsin, where a pink indoor trampoline fills half the once formal living room.

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